Gary Smalley said that fear basically comes down to two areas. With women he says it’s fear of disconnect and with men it’s fear of insignificance. Each person may have their own words for it such as men it could be disrespect but that still falls under insignificance. For women it may be abandonment and that falls under disconnect. Some people may not even know that they have a core fear. So how can we know? Look at the areas where your relationships fails. Take a hard look at why. You may come to the conclusion it’s because of a core fear.